Saturday, 25 January 2014

"How to follow your dreams" a step-by-step guide

"I have a dream" - Martin Luther King Jr.

That is probably one the most famous and iconic quotes in recent history. To many, it summarizes the entire civil right movement. To others it symbolizes hope and dreams. My point is that, everyone should have a dream. You should always work towards that ultimate goal and never loose track of it.

So how can you do this?

Steve Jobs speaks at his keynote at Apple's Worldwide Developer's Conference 2007
Source: Ben Stanfield CC BY-SA 2.0 Licence
“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.”Steve Jobs

When I made the decision to come to NZ, a few people said I was crazy, my family said I couldn't stay away too long, some people said it was a waste of time and similar. Of course, there were plenty of people who supported me and told me to go for. A few people my age have said to me later "Oh I wish I could do the same as you". Well why can't you? What's actually stopping you?

You've got a job. If you don't like it, why continue? 
You've never left home. Well if you're 22 or older it's about time. 
You've got a boyfriend/girlfriend. That person will still be there when you get back and if not, oh well it was never meant to be.
You haven't got the money. Then start saving. Work harder. I graduated from uni, with a debt of over £30 000 / 310 000NOK/ 50 000USD. I'm still pursuing my dream.

People make excuses why they can't follow their dreams all the time. The most common being money and people around them. You're putting more and more limitations on yourself. You don't have to. The only way you're going to be truly happy is by following your dream. This doesn't necessarily have to be travelling. It could be having kids, running your own cafè or writing a novel. But what's important is that it's your dream.

My dream

We all have them, that one thing you're afraid to let out. That childhood dream you haven't told anyone. Well I decided I wanted to follow mine. Ever since I was a little boy I've loved to travel, to experience new things, cultures and people. When I was graduating I faced the daunting notion of settling down. I didn't (and still don't) want to do that. I wanted to travel far away and do something completely different.

So I applied for a job in New Zealand and off I went. Yeah after a couple of months that job fell apart and I became unemployed and homeless. Though I was panicking and stressing a bit about it, looking back at it now I felt free. So there's always an experience to learn from every event.

After NZ, I'm going to Australia where I'll be **SECRET** (will be revealed soon). Australia has always been my dream, ever since seeing the kangaroos on TV as a child. I can't wait to explore it all. To see the great outback, to try new types of food and meet new people.

I'm meant to fly back to Europe on the 5th of August 2014, to attend one my friends weddings in Wales. But who's to say what may happen? Of course I miss friends and family back home, but am I ready to settle down and get a normal job? No, far from it. My dream, my purpose, is to follow my path. Now it's your turn.


1. Stop for one moment and think
You need to find YOUR dream. If helps talking to other people, then do that. However, make sure you talk to those that will encourage you. There's enough time later for pessimists and worried family.

2. Define your dream and find a path
It's doesn't have to be something complex and it can be totally crazy. Point is that it's your dream, so stop following others. You like skiing and have never been to Canada. Well then start researching ski instructor courses in Whistler. It's that simple.

3. Work towards your dream
When you've defined your dream and figured out how to get there, work towards it. Work towards it as if your life depends on it. What do you need to do in order to get there? Money, well then cut costs and start saving. Skills? Then educate yourself. Work toward it!

4. Do it!
Ignore all those people trying to stop you. Your mum, your uncle, even your best friend. The only thing that matters is that YOU have a dream and follow it. So book the flights, apply for a visa. Check out my post about the Working Holiday scheme for more information on which countries you can access with this visa.

5. Live it
That feeling when you've reached your goal. When you've followed your dream, ignoring all those pessimistic voices. When you're rushing down the hills of Whistler, working for an orphanage in India or crossing Australia by bike.

That's it. It's that simple. Some people might say "Oh that's easy for you to say". Well quite frankly, in danger of sounding slightly cocky, yes it is. I've done it and still doing it. Why should you spend your life living a life someone else wants for you? Your parents might push you towards getting a job, settle down and putting down a deposit on house. That's what they did. But why should you? Why should you follow a path that isn't yours? Of course, draw wisdom from what they say, but don't let it stop you.

You need to find your dream and fulfill it. That's why you are here on this Earth. Now go out and dream.